“Vanilla” hasn’t for ages been a put-down
“Those of us who possess various . notions of sensuality and eroticism are simply just dismissed. The pejorative word word that is pejorativebeing ‘vanilla,’ which can be ironically, one of the more sensual aromas.” – Andrea Dworkin.
“I wish BDSM folks would stop talking about me personally as ‘vanilla.’ A derogatory name that implies they’re all prudish bores?” – Anonymous, commenter on Bitch if you’re making the case that everyone should be free to do what they like without being judged, why call non-BDSM people.
We also be concerned about the kinkification of culture if we bemoan the oversexualization of culture, should?
As BDSM writer Clarisse Thorn writes, “Being a feminist that is sex-positive we stress that other ladies will read might work and it’ll increase their performance anxiety . (more…)